My dad called me the other day all excited about an interesting idea he’d had about relationships, that they are like bank accounts. Of course, others have had this thought that we must make deposits into our relationships in order to be able to access “withdrawals.”
Dad wanted to take it a step further though and use this metaphor as a type of code word within relationships, enabling each participant to quantify how they felt about the other participant’s actions. For example, my husband might take me to a movie of my choosing which I would perceive as a deposit of 10 “love points” into the bank account of our relationship.
However, if hubby hated the movie, thought it was horrible and a waste of his time and money, if he could barely stand to sit through this vapid romance despite my enthralled giggles, this deposit may feel to him like it should be worth more like 25 love points. It’s hard to know if this quantification process would lead to better understanding of one’s mate or just to stand offs!
How to come to agreement on this issue? End the date by going to the restaurant of hubby’s choosing where he can enjoy seafood which I hate…15 “love point” deposit!
CB 
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